You found your partner, now it’s time to buy the engagement ring. You’ve figured out exactly which style of ring you’re getting and have one more piece of the puzzle to solve - her ring size! This is one of the most important steps in the ring buying process.
Keeping a proposal a secret has its own challenges and trying to find her ring size without revealing yourself can be quite tricky. Lucky for you, there are multiple tactics you can use to get the answers you’re looking for.
1. Enlist Family and Friends for Help
Chances are, at one point your partner has already discussed engagement rings and their size. This is a super straightforward and simple way to get a close or completely accurate size - if there are conflicting answers, be sure to size up. It’s a lot easier to make a ring smaller! Avoid spoilers by confiding in trusted friends and family with your secret.
2. Sneak It Into Conversation
This tactic will definitely take some skill and finesse to accomplish. If you think you can smoothly ask for her ring size in a conversation without giving away the big surprise it’s the perfect and surefire way to get the most accurate answer.
You can be creative with how you bring it up in conversation. One idea would be to ask her ring size because you are buying a ring for your mom, sisters, aunt, etc. Plan in advance and ask her to give her ring size to get an idea for a birthday or Christmas present.
As you can see, there are a lot of ways to do this, so don’t rush the conversation and be as creative as you want. Just make sure you can execute it in a natural way that won’t raise any eyebrows.
3. Recruit Others to Ask
Before diving into this technique, this is also another option that you’ve got to fully those who you’re asking for help. Recruiting the help of others is a way to keep her off your proposal trail - a friend asking her ring size is way less obvious than if you were to flat out ask.
One way of doing this is having a recently engaged friend to help out. She could be asked to try that ring on or have her friend inquire about her desired ring and size.
4. Borrow an Existing Ring
A low-risk way to find one of her rings and borrow it temporarily. Be sure to choose a ring that she wears on her left ring finger, and try to find one that she won’t notice is missing for a bit.
Once you’ve got the ring in your possession, you have a couple of different options. If she’s gone for the weekend, take the ring to a local jeweler to have it sized. You can also try tracing the ring if you’re worried about her noticing its absence. The circle is a great resource for jewelers to utilize in determining her right size. Be sure to trace both the inside and outside of the ring for a more accurate size!
For the best results, you might want to get the ring professionally traced so there’s no room for error in doing it yourself.
6. Ask Her Yourself
Even though the whole point of these techniques is to keep the proposal a secret, sometimes you just need to go directly to the source. Oftentimes, couples do have conversations about an engagement prior to the actual proposal. It might make sense the next time you are talking about to just ask her what her ring size is.
This doesn’t mean you can’t keep the actual proposal a secret. It is very common in these modern times to discuss getting engaged before the commitment itself. This will ensure you’re both on the same page about the ring, making sure it fits and is the style she most desires in an engagement ring.
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Now that you’ve got all the ideas you need to figure out your special person’s engagement ring size, it’s time to actually get the ring! Rumanoff’s Fine Jewelry is dedicated to helping each of their clients find pieces that directly reflect the unique love story they’re creating with the person they love most.
